Getting Real with Millennial Mothers


We’ve made it through the 1st month of 2019 and we should be well into our routines by now. We caught up with busy millennial mothers, Buhle Mabanga and Keabetswe on how they managed to get their children back to school ready and how they make motherhood work in their lives.

Buhle Mabanga, children’s fashion designer and entrepreneur says her getting back to school routine is always an exciting task for her and her three children, Lukhona, Lilitha and Lolo.

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“We usually start introducing some sort of order (slowly killing the holiday vibe) as soon as we come home from a holiday. We always aim to come home a week before schools open to give us time to prepare. This is also the best time to finalize things such as buying and labelling of uniforms, covering books and brainstorming lunch ideas. We start by bringing back the idea of going to bed early, which is 19:30 pm.”

Buhle emphasizes the importance of monitoring and reducing screen time as much as possible; “this is very important to us because it’s been proven that children that are overexposed to television score much lower at school than children that watch less television. The maximum screen time for children between ages 2 and 5 is 1 hour. We also go through the previous year’s reports as a reminder of where we should improve in the new year,” she says.




Buhle credits a very simple routine for getting her children during the school term; “the first thing that we do every morning, this is new, is to mention 5 things that we are grateful for and tell the universe/God in detail how we want our day to go. This is so much fun. It brings so much positive energy in the house and it also teaches kids to be happy with what they have instead of always wanting more. Breakfast is very important because we get to connect briefly before we go our separate ways. My husband usually takes our eldest son Lukhona and I drop Lilitha and Lolo off at pre-primary school.”

Buhle says the afternoon routine is all about homework, reading and a few house chores such as washing dishes and watering the plants. Once the children have completed their necessary tasks, the family enjoys unwinding at the park, if there are no extramural activities. In the evening things begin to slow down in the Mabanga household as the children bathe whilst Buhle prepares dinner, followed by a good bedtime story and prayer. The house is usually quite at about 20:00 pm.

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Entrepreneur and scholar, Keabetswe says she does not have an elaborate plan for getting her two toddlers Jordan and Jasmine ready for the school term except for putting them to sleep early and getting them excited about going to school.

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This millennial mom juggles taking care of her children, business and completing her masters and says it is tricky trying to maintain a balance but credits her discipline to keeping to her and her children’s schedules/routines. Luckily since the children are tired from their full day of activities, by the end of the day they literally are begging to head to bed she says.
“Being a mom has been such a life-altering journey, especially at a young age. I’ve matured so much and am thankful for all the lessons learnt. It’s hard at times but I can’t really return them from where they came from right? haha. As cliche as it may sound, Jordan and Jasmine have pushed me to do better, be a better person and see life differently. I am so thankful for them and their amazing dad.” she said on her blog.